I create stories for a living. I went to school for four years to study storytelling in film and animation, but I am not interested in just creating fictional stories. I am interested in the stories we tell ourselves (am I weak or dumb), the stories we create daily (am I creating a tragedy or an epic adventure), and the love stories that we accumulate over our lifetime.
Of all these stories the most obsessed over is the Love Story. The guy has his role and the girl has hers. If you don’t know what part you’re playing you get dumped. The story is for the girl, and of the many reasons guys get dumped is because they want the love story to be about them. They want to be the chasers, the captors, the ones that fall and open their hearts to her.
Most men are worried about capturing a girl, that they don’t even pay attention if she is in love with them. Some girls go along with this and after 10 years that woman has never known what true love is until another guy comes along and steals her away because she got bored.
This is a failure of storytelling from the first guy.
It’s the duty of the guy to create the Love Story. He must be aware that a successful story has mystery, anticipation, and a climax.
A girl wants to chase the guy, to go through the highs and lows of missing him and then getting back together. She wants to feel as if she can to tame this wild and crazy beast.
But a man must be strong enough to carry her when she does fall. His love for her comes in his non-attachment. His ability to open space between them when she does get bored, to create doubt in her mind that this man can turn wild any moment again.
Her love story is taming the wild beast. A man’s part is to carry her through her emotions without giving up his wild nature. If you’re a good storyteller, they’re always going to be wondering, “What is going to happen next?”